Well, for any of you who are single, and dread Valentine's day every year. It is here...again! The holiday where the retail stores try to make everyone feel like they need someone, and it is a lovey dovey mess. You walk into a store, and everything in there is pink and red, full of hearts, and all the I love you stuff. Not that I am not a fan of being in a relationship. But, who says you have to be in a relationship to be happy? Why can't I just be happy being alone? Do I have to be with someone to be happy... the answer is NO! I was married for 11 years, and was happy for a long time. But somewhere, in my marriage, I lost myself. I was so consumed by being the perfect wife and the perfect mother, that I forgot to be the perfect me! In the immediate months after my divorce was final, I was almost consumed with finding the next Mr. Right. It was emotionally exhausting and draining. I finally figure out that no Mr. Right was going to make me happy. I had to do that on my own. So, 2 1/2 years after my divorce, I am completely happy sitting here with my 3 kids and my dog.
The other thing that has been re-emphasized post divorce is the importance of friends! Those girlfriends that have been around forever and love you no matter what. Those girlfriends, who have seen you at your best and still love you at your worst. They are the ones that when you have a bad week, one phone call and "Fun Friday" is scheduled. My girlfriend K and I have come to love our "Fun Fridays". There is nothing like ending the week, either good or bad, with lots of laughs and a good time being had by all!
So... if you have found your prince charming and have your "happily ever after", I am so happy for you! As for me right now... I am simply happy being with me!
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