This is probably the most real thing that I have posted in a while. There is something to be said about dating in your 40's. And, quite honestly...I'm not sure that I have many nice things to say. When you decide to date post divorce, there are many factors that come into play. First...you have your kids. Now - let me say...I love my kids more than anything in this world. But, when it comes to someone hurting me - they are not forgiving. They will be the first to say that they want to see their mom happy, but they will also be the first to say that "if you hurt my mom - then I will hurt you." They also have no problem voicing their opinions to the other person. You see, this is one of the beautiful things about being a single mom - you get ALL the love and protectiveness from these humans that love you more than anything (even if they hated you during the middle school and high school years). Second...you have your friends. If you are lucky enough to have the friends I have - they will either love the person you are with with their whole hearts or they will hate them forever for you when you break up (even if you think there might be a chance you can forgive). They will say all the ugly things you are thinking, but just can't seem to vocalize. And, for the record - when my friends love...they love and when they hate...they HATE! Third...you have your family. Now, this is where the balance comes in. When do you introduce them? Or, do you at all? Do you just wait to possibly say one day, "hey, I'm getting married," because you know that announcement would have a lot less questions than having to explain a break up. Oh, and for the record...your family and friends are probably the best judge of character around! They are the ones that know you the best, and that truly have your best interest at heart. So...there's that. All of this to be said...dating isn't all bad. Every once in a while there is someone that comes along and makes you realize that it's okay to love again and they give you that hope that one day you may find your person. They make you realize that there are some really good guys left out there if you take the time to get to know them. And, even if they don't end up being your Prince Charming - they may end up being one of the best friends you could ever have. Or...you may realize that you already have your people and you are surrounded by them every single day. They are the people who always have your back, that will show up at the most unexpected moment and know what you need more than you do yourself. These are my people...the ones I love with my whole heart!
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