Honesty... is it too much to ask?

Ok, all you single moms out there. Honestly, where do you find a good man that is honest, that has integrity, and is not a liar?!? I am absolutely amazed at the lines some people will feed you. I mean really - you are out dancing and a guy comes up and says, " Do you wanna dance? I have a girlfriend but she says I can dance with you because you are beatuiful." REALLY??? How long did it take him to come up with that, and why did he think it would work. Then the next question was, "Can you put your number in my phone?". Please go back and look at the first question.... he has a girlfriend! Is this all we have to look forward to when you are dating and you are close to 40? If so... we are in big trouble! I understand that good men are few and far between, but is it so hard to expect that you might find one that is "kind of good"? It never ceases to amaze me at the number of slime bags out there.

You find the man of your dreams, you fall in love and you think you will finally get your happily ever after. Then... you figure out that the ex-wife is controlling and manipulative and he is never going to be allowed to be happy, because it is her mission in life to make him pay for divorcing her. So, tell me this, why does anyone think that this behavior is ok? And why is the ex-wife allowed to get away with it? When is she accountable for her part of the failed marriage and her actions? Why can't we all be honest, and accept what has happened and move on?

All any of us want is our fair tale ending. Our "happily ever after". So, as I continue to weed through the slime bags one at a time, I will still be holding my breath waiting for my own prince charming.

Well, this has been a busy week. Tonight, we had our football banquet to celebrate our 2009 season. It is very hard to believe another year has gone by, and that my baby, is one year closer to graduating and moving on. He is a junior this year, and it seems like yesterday he was starting kindergarten. Every year seems to go by quicker. I feel like I missed out on so much of his life - wishing he would crawl, then wishing he would walk & talk. Then it was, I couldn't wait for kindergarten to start. Then all of sudden, you wake up one day, and you want all those days back! You want to go back in time and start over, because you realize they are almost grown and gone. What I would not give, to have some of those times back!

So... to all you moms out there, my words of wisdom, are to enjoy and cherish every moment you have while they are little. They grow up too fast, and they do not understand that they will always be our babies!

The Beginning

A blog... this is the one thing I never thought I would do. I am not even sure I understand why you blog, but for me... here it is. I am a single mom of 3 and live in "everyday America". I have 3 terrific kids, but let's face it - everyone has their share of drama and shenanigans. As a single mom, you face all kinds of things along the way. You are the mom, the dad, the money-maker, the disciplinarian, the good guy and the bad guy. You are the shoulder to cry on, the person to throw things at, the only one around to scream at. You are also, the one who gets all the joy and the love from those little people running around, that makes everything else I mentioned before worth while. I figure if I have all of this craziness going on in my everyday life, then some others might be going through the same craziness, just trying to make sense of it as well. Maybe me letting all my mistakes be known, just might help another mom not make the same ones along the way. Maybe this will let someone know, that they are doing a good job with their kids, and it might just give them a little hope that it will all work out in the end. Or just maybe, someone out there, might be able to give me some advice along the way (which I promise to listen to and consider, even if I don't agree).

So, this is how the "Shenanigans of a Single Mom" began. I will keep you updated as I try to juggle my 3 crazy kids, work, my "dating life" (or should I say "lack of dating life") , and everything in between. I can promise you it will not be perfect, but it will be real and more than likely entertaining. So.... we are now ready for a new year to begin. Bring on 2010!