It's all in His timing...

Have you ever been at a place in your life when you simply wonder what God has planned for you? Have you ever questioned decisions you have made?  You feel like you have been praying and seeking answers, but have never truly turned your life over to Him? As a Christian, I know that what happens in my life is according to God's timing - not my own. It can be very frustrating for us, because after all - we are human.  A good friend of mine once told me, that he would simply like to see God's watch.  How different would we live our life if we could see His watch? Would we treat people differently? Would we  live our lives differently?    I know that He will do what is best for me, and He knows better than I.  So... although I know all of these things, it doesn't make it any easier to live life and accept them. I must learn to put my faith in Him, and trust that He knows what is best for me!

 In Jeremiah 29:11 it says, ""For I know the plans I have for you", says the Lord.  "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.""   This a gentle reminder that He knows what is best for us - He wants us to trust in him, and be able to our life from His perspective.  What would happen in our lives if we truly gave everything over to Him, for His will to be done?  What would happen if we truly let Him guide us every step of the way, instead of us trying to find the path on our own?   I'm not sure about you, but I am certain that amazing things would happen!  

The true meaning of friendship...

My favorite time of day, is early morning - before kids are awake, before the dog is barking, before anyone is up and moving.   I spend my morning with me, my Bible, quiet time in prayer - and of course my, my cup of coffee.   As I am sitting this morning, I'm thinking about the month of October and all of the things it represents. I used to think of Halloween, fall parties... the beginning of the holiday season.  Although, I still think of those things - Breast Cancer Awareness is now at the top of my list for October.

On August 31, 2009, at approximately 3:15 that afternoon I received a phone call from my dearest friend, that forever changed our lives.  We had been waiting patiently for biopsy results.  Although, you think you are prepared for the answers - you never really are.  The nurse let her know that the biopsy had returned positive, and she did indeed have breast cancer.  My heart sank, and I was literally sick to my stomach.  I pulled over on the side of the road to listen, and honestly - to cry.  That night, we both sat on her couch and cried.  How could this happen to someone with 3 kids at home, that was in their mid 30's?   I questioned God's plan.  I simply could not wrap my head around the news.   She was not only my friend, but over our many years together - she was family.  We had been through so many things together - our first prom, our first car, weddings, divorces, funerals. the birth of our six children, and the deaths of loved ones.  Never did we imagine that on of us would have cancer.

As her doctor's appointments were scheduled, her husband and I sat and listened, and anybody who knows me knows I asked lots of questions.  Then came the next round of "firsts" in our lives, the first chemo treatment, the first day her hair started falling out, the first time we shaved her head.  Then, we lined our boys up to shave their heads.  As the year progressed, she went through a double mastectomy, another round of chemo, and then she finally reached the ultimate goal - she was cancer free!

As I look back over those times, I often wondered why God allowed it to happen?   I look at the strength and courage it took, to fight the battle every day.  As I stood beside her, and watched her fight this fight with courage, grace and integrity every day - there is not a person I admire more.  I could only hope that if I ever had to fight the same battle, I could do it with as much faith and strength as she did.

So each October, I now reflect on my dear friend and her battle.  I rejoice in the fact that I still have my friend!  I cannot imagine what my life would be like without her!    She is the reason, I take chances and live with no regrets! She is the rock, you can always count on and the who I love more than anything!

Explain it - don't express it

This morning, as I was sitting and waiting on the kids to get ready for school.   I was scrolling through Pinterest wasting time.   As I was scrolling, I came across a quote - it stated, "Explain your anger - don't express it and you immediately open the door to solutions not arguments."  I immediately began thinking - what if people actually explained their anger instead of expressing it?  How many friendships would be saved?  How many relationships might be salvaged?  How many families could have been kept in tact?  What if people actually sat down and talked about the issues, instead of lashing out?   Anger causes us to act in ways we normally would not - it causes us to yell, scream and curse.  And afterwards, when you are finished expressing all of your anger - what happens?  Normally, I feel guilty. I know I said things I shouldn't have - I know I can never take those words back.  I think about everything the Bible says about anger, and am drawn to James 1:19-20.

“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.” (James 1:19–20 NLT)

We are told we should be "quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry." How many of us remember these words in the heat of the moment? When you are really angry with someone, is listening the first thing you want to do? Sometimes, no! The first thing you do is to start talking, trying to prove your case. You try to prove they are wrong and you are right. Sometimes, we all need to take a step back from the moment, explain to the other person what it is we are upset about and then simply listen!

Taking it all in...

This morning, as I am sitting here in silence and thinking about my weekend there are several things that are on my mind.  I have said it before, and I have said it again - my life has truly been blessed beyond measure.  I have lifelong friends that I can trust and that are always there, I have three amazing children who surprise me on a daily basis, and I have a family that is more supportive than anyone could have ever hoped for or imagined.  As I look at my life over they last couple of years, there are lots of mistakes that have been made and there are lots of good things that have happened.  There have been a lot of accomplishments and there have been a lot of shortcomings - these things are just part of life.

As I sit here drinking coffee, listening to what He has to say, I was led to Romans 12.  The following portion of this chapter really hit home this morning:

Romans 12:9-21

New Living Translation (NLT)

9 Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. 10 Love each other with genuine affection,[a] and take delight in honoring each other. 11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.[b] 12 Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. 13 When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.

14 Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. 15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!

17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,

“I will take revenge;
    I will pay them back,”[c]
    says the Lord.

20 Instead,

“If your enemies are hungry, feed them.
    If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.
  In doing this, you will heap
    burning coals of shame on their heads.”[d]

21 Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.

Wouldn't it be a great world to live in, if we could all live by this principle?   What would happen if instead of running people in the ground, we lifted them up?  If instead of talking about them, we prayed for them?  If someone hurt us, we prayed for not only our healing - but theirs as well?  What kind of difference would be made if we were truly happy for everyone's accomplishments?   

So... I would challenge everyone this week to remember these words and try to live by them, and change the world one person at a time!!